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with sadness

It is with great sadness that I am going to close my blog here for the time being due to a very busy schedule, running two blog’s, well technically three is just proving to timely what with my other commitments. However my dreaming of publication blog will still be up and running here so be sure to pop by sometime.

I will be re-opening this blog again in the future although it is undetermined as to when.

love and hugs all Joss xxxx

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Proper Care and Feeding of your Writer Friend – Tips and Guidelines

Tips and Guidelines on ensuring your Writer friend receives a regular dose of social activity, not to mention the importance of food.

Social activity is important. It helps stimulate brain activity. Unfortunately, the Writer seems to have a chemical imbalance that enables her* to function on dangerously low levels of social activity. In addition, Writers also suffer from an over-production of a strange (and as yet un-identified) hormone that convinces the Writer that food is not required. In the long term these imbalances can sometimes prove detrimental to a Writer’s long-term health. Below are some activities which you could use to help care for and feed your Writer friend.


Writers possess a strange ability, also known as the power to shut out the world. This is a debilitating trait that can sometimes lead family and friends…

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National Tequila Day!!!!



So apparently, according to today’s twitter trends, it is national Tequila day, now that’s bound to make for a fantastic celebration and begs the question is tomorrow National hangover day?


Any who, I have had some very interesting Tequila experiences in my life and yes have even eaten a Tequila worm, however I was tricked into it, by my hubby.


Long story short, I am a very sensitive person, who doesn’t like to see anyone’s feelings get hurt and so while highly intoxicated on Tequila, my normal penchant for knowing when my husband is on a wind up was seriously lacking.


So when he explained to me in great detail, that I just had to eat the tequila worm because otherwise it was doomed to never achieve its life long mission, that for a Tequila worm is apparently only finished, when said drinker of Tequila eats it. I stupidly felt sorry for the Tequila worm and decided I must help it to achieve this dream and so I ate it.


Once I was sober, I felt somewhat repulsed but there is no accounting for sense or taste apparently, when you are paralytic.


Now, most of us know what Tequila is but probably very few of us know much about it, besides the fact that it is alcohol, it gets you very drunk and there is a worm in it, who probably would have much preferred to live out a long and happy life, then be dropped in potent alcohol, although, I imagine if you are gonna drown that might be the way to go about it.

(however like the worm it is probably much better if you don’t and continue to live a long and relatively happy life.)


Any who, being that it is national Tequila day, I decided to try and learn more about this potent beverage and here is what I discovered.


Well first of all lets look at our little worm friend who apparently isn’t a worm at all but either a type of larva called the Agave Snout Weevil, nice name huh or a type of caterpillar that were it not drowned in alcohol, would have grown into the Hypopta Agavis Moth.


I’m a little less bothered about eating the worm that wasn’t a worm now, one less moth in the world sounds great to me because I can’t stand moths, they scare the hell out of me. Flapping round your head like crazy as if they are yelling, I will kill you, I will. Ok, best not go there, me and moths just don’t get on.


The best part about the worm though has to be that some guy, named Jacobo Lozano  Páez discovered in 1940 that the worms, that are not in fact worms, change the taste of the spirit. What I would like to know is what the hell was he doing when he discovered this, did he mistake it for something else, or just leave his glass somewhere and one fell in and he figured what the heck, I’m thirsty. Apparently no one knows exactly what happened, but might be a cool story game, how did the tequila worm that is not a worm get in the Tequila? 


plus side, the larva/caterpillar is now considered a delicacy and can be found on lots of restaurant menu’s and you thought I was yuck for eating one, seriously delicacy. I think this might be in posh restaurant though, cause last time I checked my local fast food joint wasn’t serving  Agave Snout Weevil burgers. 


I love the name of the Larva one, Agave Snout Weevil who ever came up with that was a genius. 



Gonna tell you something interesting now though, there is actually no Larva or caterpillar in Tequila, all of the above actually relates to Mezcal another Mexican drink, apparently, however saying that, it definitely said Tequila on the bottle from which I ate the Agave Snout Weevil. Sorry I just like saying its name, because really it could have been the moth baby I ate. 


So either someone forgot to tell this to the manufacturer of the Tequila I drank or they just put them in now because so many people think it should be there. Either way I don’t know, but apparently it is only meant to be Mezcal that contains the Agave Snout Weevil or his/her little friend. 



Agave Snout Weevil


How this became a delicacy is beyond me or how I ever managed to eat one. Ewwwww, so there you have it, a little bit about Tequila or not as the case might be. 


Sorry Agave Snout Weevil only Mezcal for you. 


hope you enjoyed my little bit of fact and that none of you get tricked into eating one while your drunk. 

love and hugs Joss xxx


Another beautiful day In Cornwall :)


I am truly loving this new summer sunshine and think I may take my net book out into the light and get a bit of a tan while I work, never a bad thing right. Providing we wear proper protection of course in the form of a  good sun cream.

Life is pretty good for me right now and I am feeling very happy, Insane Reno is selling pretty well and I have had a lot of great feed back from friends, family and strangers alike, which is always great to hear.
I’m still not sure I have fully processed it all, but oh well, I won’t worry about that too much and instead will simply enjoy it.
It’s funny because when I started writing I never thought that I would ever truly be able to say i was a published author, and I don’t think I would be able to now, if it wasn’t for the huge support of some amazing friends, all of whom showed immense faith in me and pushed me on to have the courage to achieve my dream. I honestly cannot thank them enough.
Life is good and I suspect I am going to have this silly grin on my face for a fair while lol.
love and hugs all Joss xxx
P.S. thank you to all of you who have supported me and brought my book it is truly appreciated.
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Exciting and scary, all the same time

I am feeling, a very mixed bag of emotions at the moment. I am not the most brave person, in fact, I am a very un-brave person.

For me taking the plunge to publish, was incredibly hard. It’s something that I have wanted, but which it has taken me years to pluck up the courage to do. my faith in myself was seriously lacking, I was certain that even if I tried to get a publisher I would be turned down left, right and centre, but that wasn’t what happened.

I received one rejection from a publisher and one rejection from an agent. However, I received three acceptances. Every single one of those acceptances made me cry. I honestly had so little faith in myself that I didn’t think I would get a single acceptance. But then I got three.

I have been so prepared for rejection, that the acceptances knocked me for six. Of course I had plenty of friends who believed in me, who said, that they knew I could do it, that my writing was amazing. But it’s hard to believe friends, after all they are biased.

So when they say you’re good, you think, well of course they’re going to say that, after all isn’t that what friends are for.

Even now, with my book published by a proper publisher I still feel as if it isn’t good enough. I’d hoped, that getting a publisher would Cure me of my self-doubt, but it hasn’t and so I am left with a very mixed bag of emotions right now. Part excitement, that I have finely achieved my dream and part fear, because what if now, that it is out there for all to read, they don’t like it. 

I am a relatively realistic person and realise that not everyone will like what I write, something just aren’t for some people, but there is always that fear, that maybe no one will like it, the reality is that my fears will not go away for sometime, certainly not to I have a lot more feed back on my novel and a lot of other opinions. 

However, despite the fear, I am glad that I decided to publish my book, to take the plunge risk it all and just go for it, because if I hadn’t I would not have achieved my dream and would still be sat here biting my nails thinking, should I or shouldn’t I. 

Sometime, I guess life is about taking risks and hoping they pay off and perhaps it is better to know either way, than to spend the rest of my life wondering what if. Time will tell I guess. 

love and hugs all, Joss xxx


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It’s official, I am a published author!

After all this time, it is official, Insane Reno is now available to download for your Kindle.I am so happy, and so grateful for all the support I have received, both while writing insane Reno and whilst seeking a publisher.


To be a published author, has always been my biggest dream. To have that dream finally come true is amazing!


At the moment, I’m still trying to process all, but I am sure the reality will hit home soon. For anyone out there who are still trying to achieve their dream of being a published author or any other dream for that matter, I say, never give up because dreams really can come true.


So, from their very, new and shocked author, I wish you all the best when it comes to achieving your own dreams and I offer up a link to my new book, which you can now download from the Amazon store. I hope you enjoy reading it as much as I enjoy writing it.


click here if you would like a copy of Insane Reno


Love and hugs Joss XXX

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What’s gone wrong in this world?

It seems that things just keep getting worse and worse the world over, with crawl people popping up and devastating the lives of others as well as corrupt banks natural disasters and unfair treatment.

We’ve seen earthquakes, tsunamis, hurricanes, terrorist attacks and more in the last few years and it is heartbreaking to see what this world is coming too.

The 9/11 attacks shattered hearts the world over. Then similar attacks followed in London and elsewhere.

The huge tsunamis that have wiped out hundreds of live and homes along with hurricanes and flash floods. Landslides, earthquakes and forest fires too.

Cold and brutal attacks on other human beings and the riots in London.

Not to mention high prices and low income, i can not be the only person who is heartbroken by the world we live in.

I read about the Theatre shootings in Aurora and I cried. All those poor people who headed out for a night of entertainment and fun unaware of the suffering and heartache that awaited them. Children and adults alike wiped out by one cruel man, what must he have been thinking? What possess another human being to go out with the soul intention of hurting others? We have all had times, I am sure, when someone has upset us or made us mad and we’ve angrily imagined them squashed beneath a bus, but the reality is very few of us would actually want that to happen. Certainly could never plot and plan for it. But it seems more and more people are, murder is everywhere.

My Own father in law was murdered and although I never met him I watched my husband face the grief and anger of it and my heart bled for him.

Then there was that attack in Norway on that small island so many lives lost.

But it isn’t just this our governments are corrupt, banks are corrupt, small businesses are going bust, farmers are being ripped off with low prices for their milk. Wages are low and living cost high. Children’s are running riot and parents are failing to teach them respect.

We are all humans, all struggling to make a way in life, without all turning on each other.

Why does it matter what colour out skin is, how fat or thin we are, how smart or not, how tall or short or where we were born, it doesn’t.

Because we are all human. We need to make changes and fast before it is to late.

Love and hugs Joss xx

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Are you a murderer?

Are you a murderer? most people would instantly answer no to this question but if you have ever been a bully then you could be. 

Every year hundreds of people take their lives due to bullies, a large number of which are just children. 

As a parent I feel it is my responsibility to teach my child right from wrong and how ever you look at it bullying is wrong. To me teaching my child that fact is of paramount importance, I do not want him to grow up thinking that it is okay to hurt others, to call them names or to make their lives a living hell and can not for the life of me understand why other parents fail to see the importance of this. 

Having been bullied myself as a child, I know only to well how painful an experience it can be, perhaps this makes me more understanding and more anti bullying, but it should be a concern for all of us, we should all care more and hate less. 

So someone is different from you, so what, the world would be a very boring place if we were all the same and it doesn’t matter how we think people should look, dress or act, or what we think about the choices they make in their lives as long as they are not hurting others, we should not attack them, we should leave them alone understanding that we do not know all the facts about there lives and can not possibly know the struggles they face on a day to day basis. 

By allowing our children to bully we may very well be leaving them to face a lifetime of guilt, because that child they are picking on, may tomorrow be found hanging from a rope in there bedrooms, no longer able to cope with the pain and distress bullying brings. When it is all over the papers that, that child killed themselves because of bullies and your child knows that they were one of those bullies, they are going to have to spend the rest of their lives knowing that they were responsible for another human beings death, that they were a murder, one of the people that pushed that child to take their life and what if that child hanging from a rope is your child. 

We need to educate our children to care and we need to set a good example by caring ourselves. 

It’s time to stop the murder. 

love and hugs 

Joss xx

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School bus blues

I’ve said it before and I expect I will say it again, but kids are getting worse and worse and I honestly believe parents are to blame.
There have always been bullies in schools it’s not a new thing but the numbers of bratty kids is indeed growing and it is getting out of hand.
I would be mortified if my child picked on another and would ensure he knew that it was not acceptable but apparently there are very few parents who feel the same and to many ready excuses for a child with bad behaviour.
My child is suffering at the hands of bullies he is just 5 years old and doesn’t fully understand what is happening.
The school, give them their dues, has tried to correct the problem but it is a losing battle because they are faced with parents who clearly couldn’t care less what their children are up too.
The biggest problems occurred when the bus company that transported our children to and from school was changed the new driver turns a blind eye to everything and is useless.
The school have no say over this it is down to the council and the council are interested in one thing and one thing only saving money not our children’s welfare.
I never expected everyday to be a fight for my child’s well being but that is what it has come to and all because of bratty little kids who have clearly never been taught right from wrong.
When a parent turns around and says don’t look at me he even whacks me, in reference to there own child’s behaviour you wonder what the hell is going on in this world and this is something I have seen time and time again.
Why the hell are parents allowing their children to hit them. The London riots, is it really any wonder things like that occurs when parents clearly have no control over their children?
Maybe it’s time they stopped slapping excuses on kids like oh they can’t help it they have ADD and started slapping the parents with forced courses on parenting especially focusing on dealing with a child’s bad behaviour.
I dread to think what it will be like for generations to come if changes aren’t made now but I’m not going to stand for it. I’ve already been onto the school and the bus company and it will be the council next, if that fails the children are going to be hearing from me personally.
I’m not a happy camper.

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strive to try

To love is to live, I believe that, but what is love, I used to think that love was hearts, flowers and romance, but really that isn’t what love is, that’s a distraction from what love really is, that’s a selfish connotation of what love is. A side step, a money making scheme, a ploy perhaps.
The first time I truly saw the truth of love written, it was in a place I never expected to find it, a place I shied away from and ran from as fast as my chubby little legs would carry me.
The bible; God says :
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
New International Version (NIV)
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
I fail at love.
I’m not patient; I rush head long into everything, hating to wait, not wanting to stop and think it through, the result being that I have made many bad choices in my life, choices I should have learned from but which sadly I often didn’t.
I try to be kind, I do, I don’t want to be a horrible person but the reality is there are those people that just rub me up the wrong way and when they do, oh, I get mad. I hate on them and I moan about them and sometimes I secretly wish a big old bus would come along and squat them in the road. That’s not kind, not at all and it isn’t enough to be kind to the people who are easy to like, you have to be kind to everyone.
It does not envy. Wow! it gets even tougher, because I do envy, I envy the person with the really cute juicy couture bag that I want so bad, I envy people with close families, bestselling authors and well, the list goes on and on.
It does not boast, did I mention that I have just got my first publishing deal, on a novel? I am so proud of myself, oh wait, it is not proud, that’s another one isn’t it, the next one in fact.
Ok I am not gonna torture you with the full list the reality is I fail fail and fail again. There is not a single thing on that list that I do not fail at or have not failed at.
But I do believe that is what love is. Love is when you stop thinking only of yourself and you start thinking of others, specifically your partner, but ultimately people in general.
I don’t think it is possible to achieve the perfection above, but I do believe it is possible to strive to try.
I mean imagine how different things would be in this world if we all strived to try, when it came to that list of things and how much better the world would be.
But beside the world, when we look closer to home, it’s clear that even for our smaller circles of friends and acquaintances, striving to try makes a whole lot of difference.
You don’t have to be a Christian to see that, what the bible say’s about love is true and when I look back at how I have loved, there is failure stamped all over it.
Because the reality is I was so concerned with what I felt the people in my life weren’t doing for me, that I failed to see what I wasn’t doing for them.
The result of that is that time and time again, I trampled all over the feelings of the people I cared about most, my friends, my partner and my family.
When I truly stop and think about it, I see that I need to stop worrying about what I think others should be doing and instead just worry about what I need to be doing.
I’m not gonna say this is a new discovery; I’ve been trying this for a while now. Some days I succeed and some days I fail, epically so. There have also been times where i’ve just wanted to give up altogether.
I guess it’s kinda like dieting, if you set out thinking I’ll do this till I lose all the weight then start enjoying whatever I want again, you’re very quickly gonna find yourself right back where you started. But if you accept that you need to make a permanent life change, allowing yourself only the occasional indulgence and understanding that your gonna fail every once in a while, but that doesn’t have to make you give up all together, then you’re really in with a chance.
I can’t say that I’m ever going to be perfect, I think that’s an unattainable goal, but I do want to be better.
Life is complex, scary, and difficult that’s unlikely to ever change, yes they’ll be moments of laughter but ultimately there is always going to be a risk that bad things could happen, I don’t want to be the person creating those bad moments in others lives certainly not the ones I care about and I am unbelievably ashamed that I have done so in the past.
I don’t wanna say to anyone who reads this “you’re are doing it all wrong,” because the reality is only we, ourselves can know that, but I do wanna say that it’s worth looking back at your life, at the times you’ve been less than kind, a little to boastful, lied or turned your back on a person who was crying out for your time, or help and ask yourself what if someone had done that to you? How would you have felt? And then last but far from least, do you want to be that person anymore?
And if the answer is No, then maybe you should strive to try too.
Love and hugs all
Joss xxx
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